Raise your hand if you’ve ever heard the word vulnerability while watching an episode of the Bachelor or Bachelorette. (If you aren’t raising your hand, you’re lying). However, as funny as it is to make fun of the overuse of the word, it really got me to thinking tonight about what it really means to be a vulnerable person as well as what that all entails.
Vulnerable (adj.) : susceptible to physical or emotional attack or harm
Vulnerability (noun) : the quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally
I feel as though everyone has had to deal with the act of being vulnerable multiple times in their lives for multiple different reasons, and it’s not something thats so easy to do either. We’re taught as we are growing up that everyone should treat others the way they want to be treated but, as we grow older, we learn that this is just not the case. It seems as though that more often than not, people act in interest of their own personal agenda and improvement with little room to spare for others. As a person with the trait of a large, caring (sometimes taken advantage of) heart, it has become a regularity of mine to be an extremely vulnerable person.
For those that know me well, they know I act with my heart first and think with my brain second. Now, this can be taken in two ways. One, I’m an extremely heartfelt person that cares so much and would do anything for anyone, making this trait a positive and one that I am the utmost proud to have. Or two, I make it easier than it should be for others to take advantage of this, making this trait a negative and, when found it being abused, wishing I was never given it in the first place.
In my most recent years of my 20 so far here on Earth, I have come to realize that life is all about finding the right balance of vulnerability. This, of course, will be different for every situation you encounter as you will obviously open up to some more than others. But I think it’s extremely important to be aware of your vulnerability as a whole and understand where that level will take you in life.
Yes, I am a more vulnerable person than most but in the end, I have evaluated the pros and cons of having this as a part of me and have come to understand that overall, it’s a very positive thing. I realize that I am going through life with minimal regrets and with the “oh well” attitude rather than that of “what if.” I like to take risks, even if I know there’s a possibility for rejection and failure in the end. I mean, you can’t really succeed at anything in life (whether that be your career, relationships, etc.) without being vulnerable and allowing for some action to take place.
And don’t get me wrong, I know how scary this is, especially being someone that has encountered many, many, MANY rejections and failures in her own life. You would think that I would just close off, delete all social media and just live under a rock for the rest of my existence. But that’s the thing, I love people and my life too much that I do just about the exact opposite. I invest myself in finding the good in people and will continue to do this until the day I die.
I guess what I’m trying to say is, yes, life will hand you a tremendous amount of trials and tribulations but the way you react to and learn from them is what defines who you are as a person. Don’t give up. Realize that there are good people out there in the world. Even in the face of possible rejection, put yourself out there as you are never sure of the outcome unless you go for it. And something bad could happen, absolutely. But what if it doesn’t?
And with that, I’ll leave you on this gloomy Monday night as I have a Calculus exam in T – 9 and a half hours that I should probably rest up for.
But, just keep in mind, as someone once told me, God hands the most struggles to the ones he knows can handle and grow from them.
(Lmao, I used the word vulnerability at least 11 times writing this. Someone hire me to write for the Bachelor please and thanks)