I’ve been trying to think of a creative way to start this post for about an hour now and I’ve come up empty handed, so I’m just going to dive right into it.
This summer, my best friend and I are working for a moving company, and we have both come to find that this job not only has better hours and better pay, but is more enjoyable and we have more fun together as a whole. Friday, we were working to help move a couple and while packing up their closets, we got to talking, like we normally do, about life to pass the time.
We ended up on the topic of how people tend to portray themselves a way on social media and it got me to thinking, how much do people actually stress over being perfect to put out a certain image of themselves? Now obviously, I’m not completely innocent when it comes to this but I believe that there’s a difference between filtering and editing your pictures to make them look nicer on your feed (yeah, I geek out when it comes to this but I fully accept it so JUDGE ME IDC) and completely trying to portray something that you aren’t.
It’s a hypocritical topic to discuss as most people do this somewhat when it comes to social media platforms, mainly Instagram, but it’s an important topic to bring light to nonetheless. I feel that as one starts to cross the line discussed above, they start to lose their sense of self and get so caught up in their “perfect self image” that they forget what themselves and life are really all about. And, not only does this happen online, but it happens offline as well!
I just could never, and still cannot, bring myself to understand why someone would want to purposely hold back their emotions and being who they are and expressing themselves all because they were afraid of what someone would think? These past couple years I’ve learned a lot about myself and one of those important things is that it’s OKAY to be a dork and it’s OKAY to have fun and laugh and enjoy yourself because that’s what life is all about people!!
I came to a realization Friday when Kate and I were talking, and I mean I know everyone always says that you only have one life so live it to the fullest, but I really wonder how much people actually live by that. For example, if you decide to go to college once you graduate from high school, you have roughly 4 years of college life before you set out into the real world as a (real) grown adult. (College is like being an adult but being a fake adult as you really just act like a huge child the whole time while trying to get your life together, just hoping that everything works itself out by the time you are done).
That’s all you have!
And if you spend these 4 years caring so much about your perfect self image and how you portray yourself, both on and offline, it’s easy to lose sense of who you really are and ultimately, you end up more unhappy than you have ever been before. You start to question who you are, who your friends are, why you do the things that you do, etc.
And now, if you’ve gotten to this point and are still reading, you may be thinking, “oh Shelby, you’re so hypocritical. You care so much about your Instagram” and blah blah blah. Well, if you REALLY care to hear how I, myself, combat falling into the trap of portraying a different version of myself, then continue to read on. But if you think this is a load of crap and are in denial, chances are, this post is probably ESPECIALLY directed at you.
The thing is, I’ve always been a creative person. From making houses out of strictly paper when I was 9 (I apologize to my parents and the environment for all of the printer paper I have used in the past), to creating this blog a year and a half ago as a creative outlet, I have always loved getting my hands on anything that involved my imagination. It’s no surprise to those that are close to me that I get so excited about aesthetically pleasing things that it might be unhealthy.
Am I 100% exposing myself of my guilty pleasures for perfect Instagram and Pinterest feeds, perfectly taken pictures, and lighting that makes things look good?
But why, do you ask? BECAUSE IT’S JUST WHO I AM.
I’m not trying to display something I’m not to everyone on social media but rather, it’s something I thoroughly enjoy and I wholeheartedly accept that. It would actually drive me insane if my pictures didn’t look a certain way. And now you may be thinking, “omg Shelby, you’re such a weirdo for caring about that stuff” and blah blah blah but that leads me to the whole point of this post so thank you :))))))))).
I DON’T CARE WHAT ANYONE THINKS, PERIOD. Because I like it and that’s all that matters!
I absolutely love who I am as a person, the few friends I have around me that are genuinely there for me and care about me and don’t use me, the school I go to, and the life I’m living and to be completely honest, I couldn’t be more happy with where I’m at in my life.
I don’t hide who I truly am to fit other people’s agendas (I did too much of that in high school and hated my life every second of it), I live my life the way I want to with the people that WANT to be in my life and want to support me and accept me for who I am.
To those out there that are so wrapped up in the idea that you need to act, look, and dress a certain way to get the maximum amount of people to like you I say, knock it the frickity frack off because you’re making the most important person of them all unhappy and miserable, and that person is you. You are beautiful in your own way and I PROMISE the moment you stop caring what people think of you, both on social media and off, the more you will start loving yourself and living your life to your fullest potential, but in the way YOU want to.
That is all lovelies, thanks for listening to my long, but important, rant.