I struggled with what to title this post but I think the word irony sums up the topic quite nicely. Through my time as a college student and experiencing all the hardships that I have, I have come to realize an ironic trend in the way people treat other people.
I’ve always been semi-aware of it’s existence but it wasn’t until it was put right in front of me today that I really came to notice it. This “thing” I speak of is hard to put into words so rather than coming up with one or a few words to encapsulate it, I think describing through an example will help better.
Think back to a time in your life where you put someone before yourself. I’m not just talking about one moment, but rather a collection of moments where you continuously put someone else in your life and their needs before your own. You did everything in your power to support that person and no matter how many times they messed up, you were always quick to forgive and see the good in that individual. You did this because you loved them and cared so much for them it hurt. And then you, because you aren’t perfect, made a mistake (just like everyone else does because it’s life people!!). You make one sole mistake and suddenly, all of your support and love is flung out the window faster than you can even say the word support. You’re suddenly defined by one event and the negative is focused on instead of all the positives you went through prior.
I bring this up because I feel it’s ironic how someone that can be so supportive, loving and caring can be perceived to be such a terrible person the moment they make one mistake. It baffles me honestly??
AND how someone that continuously makes mistakes isn’t perceived to be as bad because they’re known to mess up. They’re expected to not be perfect. They have flaws in the way they treat other human beings. They are selfish, so much that this behavior is expected of them.
BUT the moment that someone that isn’t like this slips up, it’s the end of the world. That person is terrible, awful and isn’t deserving of things.
Now you tell me how ironic it is that someone with a huge heart that always puts people before themselves can be perceived as more of a terrible person than someone that doesn’t. Someone that is as selfless as can be is ridiculed for being, what, human??
I write my blog posts as self-reflection and put my thoughts into writing in hopes that others can relate to my experiences and learn from them. I have come to realize how unfair this world is more and more every day and it sickens me that those that have the biggest hearts get treated like shit the most (excuse the language but with my frustration today, I feel it’s appropriate).
To my lovers and supporters out there, just know that when (and not if) you make a mistake (because it will happen considering you AREN’T perfect), do NOT let others define you by it and do NOT let yourself think any less of yourself as a person either. It’s all part of the journey and I think that when you experience moments like these and individuals that treat you as such, it’s just God’s way of telling you that you deserve so much more in life. That you deserve people that will guide you and support you instead of tear you down.
And I think that’s the beauty of life. The more hardships we encounter and the more shitty people we face, it shows us exactly what we deserve and exactly what we don’t.
Thanks for coming to my TED talk, I hope you enjoyed. Have a wonderful Sunday night and sleep well, God knows I will.